Barbara Kay: University of Toronto’s Pimps-R-Us program offers discounts to sex party
National Post - Wednesday January 16th, 2013
The University of Toronto, you will be edified to know, is “kicking off its annual Sexual Awareness Week” next Monday at a downtown Toronto club, the Oasis Aqua Lounge, where swingers are welcome. Facilitating the adventure is the university’s Sexual Education Centre (SEC), which arranged for students to pay only $5 a person instead of the $40 per person Oasis usually charges.
An exuberant Reddit user posted the information in a University of Waterloo forum thus: “U of T is holding an orgy, and you’re invited! You just need your student ID.” Shocked at the use of the O-word, an SEC spokesperson babbled out a denial that “orgy” was in any way the right word to apply to the planned caper. “[T]his is not an orgy, we’re not funding an orgy. People are allowed to have sex on premise…[but] there is not any type of ‘You should be having sex when you’re here.’ It’s very much, come and enjoy the space…”
Sex is allowed everywhere but the hot tub.
Enjoy the space, eh? Let’s look at the “space” and see what there is to enjoy.
Oasis is described in a news report as “four storeys of easy-to-clean surfaces, with sanitizing wipes, baskets of condoms, and lots of places to mingle.” (mingle? Seriously?) There are “rules and etiquette, but no judgment.” Some people may wish to have sex; some may only want to watch other people having sex. Some people come as a group and have sex with each other. Oh, and “sex is allowed everywhere but the hot tub.” The Wikipedia entry for the word defines orgy as “a sex party where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex.” Am I missing something? This Oasis gig sounds like an orgy to me.
May I ask why it is necessary for the University of Toronto to have a Sex Awareness Week at all? Is this a Yale University wannabe thing? (See my April 2010 column on Yale’s famous Sex Week). The week is to include “a discussion on sex positivity, an interactive sex toy demonstration and an afternoon of pornography.”
As I said of Yale’s sex week, this tarted-up promotion of voyeurism “strikes me as nothing more than a forum conceived to proselytize the student body on the cultural virtue of dumbing deviancy down, and to shame students who adhere to traditional moral standards of reasonable restraints on sexual gratification.” As Nathan Harden, author of the recently published book, Sex and God at Yale: Porn, Political Correctness, and a Good Education Gone Bad was told by one female observer, “It’s not Sex Week, it’s Have Sex Week.”
If students, presumably adults, want to have sex, watch porn, attend live sex shows, or participate in orgies at swingers clubs anywhere in the city, they have the right to do so. They should not need to be encouraged, or to have their hands held by an official university body while doing so, nor should the university be offering such seductive discounted rates as to virtually ensure mass attendance. Furthermore, the club normally restricts the entry of single men to once a week. But for this student party, that rule has been waived. In other words, access to orgies for all students is considered so important by the SEC that a special form of affirmative action for male students seems justified to encourage the greatest possible number of them to profit from the experience.
Hypocrisy is the compliment vice pays to virtue, as the old adage truthfully affirms. And what an eloquent display of hypocrisy we have on display at the University of Toronto’s SEC. If they were half as obsessed with truth-telling as they are in the promotion of transgressive sex, they would fling off the thin veil of academic respectability they are hiding behind and call themselves Pimps R Us.